It is also an opportunity to trauma-proof our children. When they receive news of someone who has a terminal illness or death, they are better able to manage their emotions, empathise and offer support to others. This is why our children are kept updated of their grandmother's cancer episodes and treatment outcomes. Our sense is that they have become more sympathetic and caring when responding to tragic news.

We all have to confront uncomfortable situations like managing conflicts in relationships or dealing with tragic situations like terminal illness or death. Families have a role to play in nurturing children to be resilient.