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All the lonely people: How I’m trying to make friends in my 20s

Even young people are discovering that their pool of friends is shrinking. The key is to take the initiative to start conversations, open up and look in the right places.

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Asian women are sitting hugging their knees in bed. Feeling sad, disappointed in love In the dark bedroom and sunlight from the window through the blinds.Vintage tone.

While social isolation can be a thing with mature folks, research suggests the drift starts way earlier.

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Friends. Gotta love them. They laugh with you over silly things like the alien-looking breakfast they ordered just to be adventurous. If you’re lucky, they point out your blind spots. And when you need it, they provide another perspective on your fledgling or floundering romantic relationship. 

But now, two years into my job, I’m finding it harder to make new friends and keep the ones I have. Friendships fade as careers take off because people are often too busy or tired to meet on weekdays, and weekends are just too short. Suddenly, you find that your friends have drifted away.

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