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Making time to hold space (and planks) with Mum

An unexpectedly tough exercise class helped the writer see a different side of her mother. Sticking with it deepened their relationship.

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An unexpectedly tough exercise class helped the writer see a different side of her mother. Sticking with it deepened their relationship.

In exercise classes, the writer sees a side of her mother that she had not fully appreciated before.

ST ILLUSTRATION: CEL GULAPA

Nicole Chan

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The invitation came indirectly. Last September, my aunt invited my mother and me to join her for what she described lightly as an exercise class. 

We thought, why not? Mum had recently retired from her job as a chief human resources manager at the age of 59, and after decades of full schedules and constant responsibilities, her days had opened up in ways she wasn’t used to. 

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