WASHINGTON (NYTIMES) - Mrs Melania Knauss Trump came to her role as first lady as an enigma. No one knew how the former Slovenian model who became Mr Donald Trump's third wife would adapt to the role her predecessor Michelle Obama had redefined.
Even as Mrs Trump's husband ignored the traditions of his predecessors, she at first tried to follow hers after arriving in Washington from New York months after Mr Trump: hiring a staff, talking about childcare as the mother of a young son, and finding her own causes, while any attention she got tended to be for the designer clothes she wore at every public appearance.
But as the years went by, her efforts lost steam, undermined by a series of public spectacles created by her husband as well as her own self-inflicted public relations disasters and the hostility she felt from the media.
Like the President, she began to pay less attention to traditional niceties, most memorably when leaked expletive-filled audio surfaced of her saying how much she could not stand the White House Christmas decorations.
Described by White House officials as in a state of shock after the election, Mrs Trump joined with her husband in insisting that he had actually won.
But by the new year, she was house hunting in Florida and was emotionally checked out well in advance of the mob's attack on the Capitol and the day that her husband's false claims were finally put to rest.
She never reached out to the incoming first lady, Mrs Jill Biden, about transition matters, and made no effort to give her a tour of the White House, as is customary for departing first ladies. Instead, Mrs Trump focused on packing up the White House, even as her husband tried to make time stand still.
After weathering four years of tumult - reports of her husband's infidelity, a kidney condition that required a hospital stay and never-proven rumours that she did not even live at the White House - what was most memorable at the end was not how different Mrs Trump seemed from her husband, but how similar she was to him.
Last week, as the nation reeled after the Capitol riot, Mrs Trump used her platform partly for payback.
She lamented that "salacious gossip" had been spread about her, leaving most people confused about what she was talking about. It turned out to be Ms Stephanie Winston Wolkoff, a former aide who published an unflattering tell-all book about their relationship and who released audio recordings.
Ms Winston Wolkoff had written an op-ed article denouncing Mrs Trump after the Jan 6 riot, an article that went barely noticed by others until the First Lady called attention to it. As First Lady, Mrs Trump released more statements about Ms Winston Wolkoff than almost any other topic.
A spokesman for Mrs Trump did not respond to questions on Tuesday (Jan 19).
"I find it shameful that surrounding these tragic events there has been salacious gossip, unwarranted personal attacks and false misleading accusations on me - from people who are looking to be relevant and have an agenda," Mrs Trump wrote in a statement released on the White House's official website.
On Monday, she struck a different tone in what amounted to a farewell video. She promoted her time as First Lady, and her nascent platform, Be Best, again asking the rest of the country to uphold ideals that her husband has spent four years ignoring.
"Use every opportunity to show consideration for another person," Mrs Trump said. "In all circumstances, I ask every American to be an ambassador of Be Best. To focus on what unites us, to raise above what divides us, to always choose love over hatred, peace over violence, and others above yourself."
Mrs Trump's friends say that she is a better person than the country ever saw, who at times tried unsuccessfully to be a moderating influence on her husband and was angered by how he handled their final months in the White House.
"Melania is and will continue to be the most popular Trump," Ms Kellyanne Conway, the former counsellor to the President, said in an interview. "She will use her platform for the good of others. As First Lady, she was fully engaged, but not overexposed. There remains a curiosity and a mystery about her."
But publicly, she has shown a side that critics felt could be confoundingly callous and, like her husband, dramatically self-pitying.
In 2018, while returning from a visit to a Texas border town to meet detained migrant children, Mrs Trump made what turned out to be her most explicit fashion statement, wearing a jacket emblazoned with the phrase, "I really don't care. Do U?"
Months later, Mrs Trump tried to explain her choice in an interview, only to refer to herself as "the most bullied person in the world" during a misstep-laden trip to Africa. Her reputation never recovered from that episode. While at several points in her husband's presidency, the First Lady enjoyed higher popular ratings than he did, the bursts in popularity never lasted long.
"I think she never came out from under the shadow of her husband for a variety of reasons," said Dr Katherine Jellison, a history professor at Ohio University who studies first ladies. "The times that she attempted to define a more independent identity from him just didn't seem to have staying power."
Mrs Trump is keeping a White House adviser, Ms Marcia Lee Kelly, to help her in the post-presidency, but for now, she is focused on looking for a suitable place to live around the Jupiter, Florida, area and in Palm Beach, people briefed on the search said.
And her involvement with the Trump presidency is not over - she is expected to be involved in the design of Mr Trump's presidential library, which the President has described as a job for Mrs Trump and his eldest daughter, Ms Ivanka Trump.
But when she leaves Washington on Wednesday, Mrs Trump risks being remembered as the first lady who showed up to Washington late and left early - in every meaningful sense.
"She's the reluctant first lady at best," society publicist R. Couri Hay, who was an acquaintance of Mrs Trump's in New York, said in an interview. "Quite frankly, I think America should just let her go."