Living with dementia

The toll it takes on family and friendships

Steven's eldest daughter, Desiree, having dinner with her parents on Feb 7 while her daughters played in the background at Steven's home. Desiree tries to have dinner with her parents as often as she can. (From left) Ms Wong Lai Quen and her husband
(From left) Ms Wong Lai Quen and her husband Steven Lau with his long-time friends from his university accountancy class Chua Thiam Chok, 63, director of a used car and printing company; Chue Chee Cheong, 63, a former stockbroker; and Freddy Chua, 64, managing director of a fund management firm, at Orchard Rendezvous Hotel on Jan 4.ST PHOTO: NG SOR LUAN
Steven and Lai Quen with their daughter Jessica, 28, and her groom Brandon, 29, at the young couple's wedding in Sentosa on Nov 9 last year. The older couple have three daughters.
Steven’s eldest daughter, Desiree, having dinner with her parents on Feb 7 while her daughters played in the background at Steven’s home. Desiree tries to have dinner with her parents as often as she can. ST PHOTO: NG SOR LUAN
Steven's eldest daughter, Desiree, having dinner with her parents on Feb 7 while her daughters played in the background at Steven's home. Desiree tries to have dinner with her parents as often as she can. (From left) Ms Wong Lai Quen and her husband
Steven and Lai Quen with their daughter Jessica, 28, and her groom Brandon, 29, at the young couple’s wedding in Sentosa on Nov 9 last year. The older couple have three daughters. ST PHOTO: NG SOR LUAN

The thought of divorce crossed Lai Quen's mind as she coped with the stress of living with a man much changed by dementia

How does a class reunion, typically full of reminiscences, pan out when one of its members has dementia?

A few old boys from Steven Lau's university accountancy class gathered for a New Year's lunch at Orchard Rendezvous Hotel on Jan 4.

Please or to continue reading the full article. Learn more about ST PREMIUM.

Enjoy unlimited access to ST's best work

  • Exclusive stories and features on multiple devices
  • In-depth analyses and opinion pieces
  • ePaper and award-winning multimedia content
A version of this article appeared in the print edition of The Sunday Times on May 24, 2020, with the headline 'The toll it takes on family and friendships'. Print Edition | Subscribe