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The wrong definition of love
The prevailing cultural emphasis on the self and personal well-being has consequences.
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Falling in love in this view is not a decision you make for your own benefit, but a submission, a poetic surrender you assent to, often without counting the cost.
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David Brooks
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The time I used to spend on Twitter I now spend on Substack, and my life is much better for it. There are a lot of interesting, eclectic writers in the world. Last week, for example, I stumbled across a post from culture writer Antonia Bentel, who asked six strangers and friends about how they fall in love.
One woman responded, “I fall in love when someone sees me in a way I didn’t know I could be seen.” A young man answered, “Falling in love is like seeing yourself reflected in someone else’s mind.” Another woman said, “I fall in love when I don’t feel like I’m performing competence.”
