Forum: Let’s not normalise unsporting conduct and calls of “referee kayu”

Sports is seen as a key agency to bring communities together in our society. Yet, increasingly, conduct on the sidelines appears to contradict these ideals.

A recent example during a Women’s Premier League game, where a head coach was seen shouting at the referee and taunting opponents, reflects a broader issue that goes beyond a single game.

Such actions, when displayed at senior and professional levels, risk setting a poor precedent. The behaviour of coaches and officials inevitably influences players, supporters and, importantly, the next generation of footballers.

This influence is already visible in youth competitions such as the Singapore Youth League. There have been reports of coaches shouting aggressively at referees and fighting with other coaches, and parents scuffling with other parents. For young athletes, who are still learning not just the game but also its values, this environment can distort their understanding of sportsmanship.

Competitive passion is an integral part of football. However, it must be balanced with respect for officials, opponents and the spirit of the game. When lines are crossed without consequence, poor behaviour risks becoming accepted as part of the sport.

There is a need for stakeholders, including clubs, associations and league organisers, to reinforce standards of conduct more consistently. Clear accountability and visible consequences would send a strong signal that unsporting behaviour has no place in the game. There should never be a day when calls of “referee kayu” are accepted and normalised.

If football is to continue serving as a positive force for character development, especially among the young, it is crucial that those in positions of influence lead by example.

Ho Wen Jin