Forum: Let’s create a more accepting society for parents and young children
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Singapore’s low birth rate has been attributed to various factors such as financial constraints and lack of work-life balance. While these reasons are valid, I, as a person expecting my first child, feel there is another contributing factor that is often overlooked – the societal attitudes towards parents with young children.
In Singapore, people can be overly judgmental, and this adds an unnecessary layer of stress to parenting.
I often take my nieces and nephews out, and have experienced how nerve-racking it can be to have noisy kids in public spaces.
The constant stares, passing remarks and disapproving looks that many Singaporeans are quick to express often make these outings stressful ordeals rather than joyful experiences.
This judgmental culture discourages parents from allowing children to explore and express themselves freely, and affects the adult’s peace of mind.
Children can be loud and energetic, but it is simply part of how they grow and learn. Instead of viewing this as an annoyance or disruption, the community can create a more welcoming environment where parents feel confident letting their kids be kids. Public spaces should foster a sense of community rather than scrutiny.
When in New York City, I saw such commendable community spirit. New Yorkers, despite living in a fast-paced environment, show a high level of understanding and empathy.
When children are loud or throw tantrums, most people don’t bat an eyelid. Instead, they often respect the privacy and boundaries of parents.
On occasion, strangers even offer words of encouragement such as: “We have been there before! No worries!” Such positive encouragement helps parents to feel less isolated and more confident in managing their children.
If Singapore can move beyond mere tolerance and embrace a culture of acceptance, we can create a more supportive environment for families. This would not only make it easier to raise children but also make having more children a less daunting prospect.
Singapore has the potential to be a place where parenting is not a stressful endeavour but a shared journey, supported by a kind and understanding society.
Timothy Mah
