Forum: Give children room in public spaces to learn from mistakes
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I refer to the letter “ Children should be well-behaved in public
I have had my fair share of moments in public where my child’s behaviour didn’t meet everyone’s expectations. Many children are still developing the ability to regulate their emotions, manage impulses and adapt to different social settings. These skills take time, practice and support to build – and public spaces often provide opportunities for this learning to happen.
The teaching journeys and progress vary for every child, especially for those who are neuro-divergent. My son, who has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), needs extra time and practice to build these skills. Unfortunately, these moments are not always obvious to onlookers, and the resulting judgment can be discouraging for both children and parents.
Rather than expecting perfection, I believe public spaces should be seen as environments where children can practise, make mistakes and grow. A little empathy and understanding from others go a long way in fostering a more inclusive and supportive community.
By approaching these situations with patience and compassion, we create shared spaces that benefit everyone, not just children and their families.
Teresa Chua
