Chinese 'auntie' who went on a solo road trip became feminist icon

For six months, Ms Su Min has been on a solo drive across China, documenting her journey for more than 1.35 million followers across several social media platforms.
For six months, Ms Su Min has been on a solo drive across China, documenting her journey for more than 1.35 million followers across several social media platforms. PHOTO: SCREENGRAB FROM VIDEO/ WEIBO

HAINAN (NYTIMES) - She spends each night alone, curled up in a 1.4m-by-2.4m rooftop tent, balanced on stilts above her car. She often eats her meals in parking lots. She has seen her daughter and grandchildren only once in the past six months, and her husband not at all.

Ms Su Min, a 56-year-old retiree from Henan province in central China, has never been happier. "I've been a wife, a mother and a grandmother," Ms Su said. "I came out this time to find myself."

After fulfilling her family's expectations of dutiful Chinese womanhood, Ms Su is embracing a new identity: fearless road-tripper and Internet sensation. For six months, she has been on a solo drive across China, documenting her journey for more than 1.35 million followers across several social media platforms.

Her main appeal is not the scenic vistas she captures, although those are plentiful. It is the intimate revelations she mixes in with them, about her abusive marriage, dissatisfaction with domestic life and new-found freedom. Her blunt but vulnerable demeanour has made Ms Su - a former factory worker with a high school education - an accidental feminist icon of a sort rarely seen in China.

Older women send her messages about how painfully familiar her story feels and greet her at each destination bearing fruit and home-cooked meals. For younger women, she is a font of advice about marriage and child-rearing. "I wish my mother could be like Auntie Su and live for herself, instead of being trapped and locked in by life," read a comment on one of her videos.

Her unexpected popularity speaks to the collision of two major forces in Chinese society: the rapid spread of the Internet and a flourishing awareness of gender equality in a country where traditional gender roles are still deeply rooted, especially among older generations.

"Before, I thought I was the only person in the world who wasn't happy," Ms Su said in an interview from inside her beige tent. She was leaving tropical Hainan, China's southernmost province, headed for Guilin, a city famed for its lush hills, about 800km away.

Only after sharing her videos online, she said, "did I realise there were so many people like me".

Before last autumn, Ms Su had rarely travelled. But she had long been enamoured with the idea of driving. Growing up in Tibet, she sometimes missed the school bus home and had to walk 19km through the mountains, she said. Each time a truck passed by, she imagined sitting behind the wheel, safe and comfortable. But cars were rare, and having one seemed impossible.

At 18, she moved to Henan and worked in a fertiliser factory. Five years later, she married her husband. They had met only a few times - not uncommon at the time - but she thought marriage might be a way out of the endless chores she shouldered at home.

Instead, she said, she found herself laden with even more housework, as well as verbal and physical abuse. Her husband would disappear for long stretches and then hit her if she asked where he had been, she said; once, he beat her with a broom.

Still, Ms Su said, she never considered leaving, worried about a social stigma that is still pervasive in much of China.

She resigned herself to her life at home. Her daughter gave birth to twins in 2017, and Ms Su was in charge of watching them - a task that she was happy to do, but that kept her tied to her home. Although age had cooled her husband's temper, they barely spoke. When they did, they argued.

She sought solace in novels about time-travel and romantic Korean soap operas but still felt deeply lonely. During especially heated arguments with her husband, she would faint, she said. A doctor eventually told her she had depression.

Then, in late 2019, she came across a video online of someone introducing their camping gear while on a solo road trip. She remembered her childhood dream of driving - the freedom and comfort it had represented.


After fulfilling her family's expectations of dutiful Chinese womanhood, Ms Su is embracing a new identity: fearless road-tripper and Internet sensation. PHOTO: SCREENGRAB FROM VIDEO/ WEIBO

Over the following months, she devoured every video she could find about road trips. She took copious notes: which apps they used to find campsites, which tricks they had for saving money. (Showers at public bathhouses, she learnt, could be bought in bulk).

Soon, she made up her mind: Once her grandsons entered pre-school, she would embark on a trip of her own. She had bought a small white Volkswagen hatchback several years earlier, with her savings and a monthly pension of around US$300 (S$400).

Her family was resistant. Ms Su reassured her daughter that she would be safe. She ignored her husband, who she said mocked her.

On Sept 24, she fixed her tent to the top of the car, packed a mini-fridge and rice cooker, and set off from her home in the city of Zhengzhou.

She posted video updates as she drove, and in October, one of them went viral on Douyin, the Chinese TikTok. In it, she described how oppressed she had felt by housework and her husband. "Why do I want to take a road trip?" she sighed. "Life at home is truly too upsetting." Millions watched the video, sharing it with hashtags like "runaway wife".

Ms Su continued across the country, visiting historical Xi'an, mountainous Sichuan and the old town of Lijiang - covering more than 13,600km so far. She saved on highway tolls by taking country routes. At night, she unfolded her tent atop her car like an accordion, feeling safer up high. Before setting out again each morning, she draped her wet towel on a clothesline strung across the back seat.


spends each night alone, curled up in a 1,4m-by-2.4m rooftop tent, balanced on stilts above her car. PHOTO: SCREENGRAB FROM VIDEO/ WEIBO

In her videos, she marvelled at her new-found freedom. She could drive as fast as she wanted, brake as hard as she liked. At each stop, she made friends, she said. Wrapping dumplings on camera in a Hainan parking lot in February, she laughed when tourists passing by asked who was travelling with her.

"I love eating hot peppers, but my family doesn't like them, so I had to make myself not eat peppers," she said in an interview. "Now after coming out, I can eat peppers every day."

She has sometimes encountered hostility. Once, she said, a man asked how she could air her family's private affairs and said he would beat her if they ever met in person. She replied, "Good thing I haven't met you."

Ms Su's daughter, Ms Du Xiaoyang, who visited her in Hainan last month, said her mother was a new person.

"Anything she wants to do, she just does, whereas before she seemed afraid of everything," Ms Du said.

In March, Net-a-Porter, the luxury shopping website, featured Ms Su in an advertisement for International Women's Day.

Still, she blushes when asked about her new fame. She also says she is not yet qualified to claim the mantle of feminist. "It took me so many years to realise that I had to live for myself."

She paused: "It's something I'm waking up to, not something that I just am."


Ms Su Min (left) often eats her meals in parking lots. PHOTO: SCREENGRAB FROM VIDEO/ WEIBO

There are limits to what she is willing to change. Although she is determined to move out if her husband continues to treat her badly, she says she doesn't want a divorce, knowing that her daughter would feel obliged to care for him if she left.

But she tries not to dwell upon that eventual homecoming. First, she plans to cover all of China. That could take a few years.

"Now that I've finally come out, now that I want to leave behind that life, I need time to let it melt away," she said. "There are many things that, as time passes, may have an outcome you never imagined."