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Divorcee lets go of expectations to make joint parenting work
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When her marriage broke down, Ms Toh and her former husband both wanted their only child, a daughter who is now eight years old, to live with them after the divorce.
But Ms Toh, a 29-year-old sales executive, decided not to fight with him over care and control, or which parent the child lives with.


