Karen Sng, 63
Counsellor
Shift: 3pm-7pm, Nov 2
"It was very sad especially when Mr Tay tried to pull off his oxygen tube. It was obvious he was uncomfortable. I took the tube out and guided his hand to his nose to scratch the itch before inserting the tube again. The last of our senses to go is our hearing. So although Mr Tay was unresponsive, we continued to hold his hands and talk to him to assure him that he was loved and not alone, and that we knew he loved his sister and she was on her way to see him."
Missed opportunities
Juliana Chia, 44
Personal assistant
Shift: 7pm-10pm, Nov 2
"It's a pity I didn't get to know Mr Tay well before he fell very sick. I heard from the other Noda volunteers that he treated them like family. I understand that he loved the group unconditionally and never took advantage of them. I've always thought that dying patients are hot-tempered, unreasonable or impatient due to their pain or anxiety. But Mr Tay showed that this need not be the case and dying patients can be approachable."
Lessons on living well
Jeanette Wee, 63
Former kindergarten teacher
Shift: 3pm-6pm, Nov 3
"Mr Tay taught me not to waste time worrying about illness. He kept himself busy reading newspapers, singing and interacting with everyone. He managed to tick off all the items on his 'bucket list'. I pray that he can let go of all his burdens and be at peace. Since joining Noda, I no longer fear dying and accept that death comes to everyone eventually. I believe in living life to the fullest. Do what you can for yourself and others."
Power of music
Daphne Lim, 45
Corporate trainer
Shift: 1am-6am, Nov 3
"My time with Mr Tay during the vigil taught me that music has the power to bring peace. When he got restless, I played some Buddhist chants. Being a Roman Catholic, I did not understand the words but found the tune beautiful. Mr Tay calmed down when he heard the chants, which showed his hearing was still strong and the chants had connected with him. Life is short, from the perspective of eternity. One day we will all have to go, so make this life count."
Spreading inner peace
Angela Sho, 43
Speech therapist
Shift: 6am-9am, Nov 4 (Mr Tay died at 8.30am)
"I often approach the vigils by calming myself. I feel that with my own inner peace and calm, I can bring peace and calm to the dying person, and stay present in that moment. I did visualisation with Mr Tay, asking him to imagine going to a place where he wanted to go and meeting people whom he wanted to meet and saying whatever he wanted to. I spoke to him about the 'here and now' - who is here, what they are doing or going to do."
Small gesture made him smile
Samantha Lim, 37
School teacher
Shift: 3pm-6pm, Nov 3
"Mr Tay came across a newspaper advertisement and saw that milk and bananas were on discount. He said banana milk was nice but he could not find it in supermarkets. I told him I'll bring some for him. The following week, I brought him a packet of banana milk. He wasn't looking happy that day as his neck was aching. But he grinned when I showed him the milk. After a sip, he smiled brightly. I was happy that a simple gesture could bring a smile to him."
The importance of presence
Jaki Fisher, 39
English teacher who runs the Noda programme at Assisi
Shift: 10pm-1am, Nov 2-3
"I was in a Buddhist chaplaincy programme in the US in 2014 and my classmate told me about the Noda programme. I thought it was amazing, and came back and pestered Assisi to start one. Presence is important and the concept of being with someone touched me. People don't want to be alone. There are times in my life when I felt lonely and I don't want others to feel like that, especially when they are dying."