Blended families: From bickering to bonding for this public servant couple

(From left) Son Ilham, Ms Jafmai Idayuwati Jaffar, Mr Alfian Afandi and their daughter Umi. PHOTO: JAFMAI IDAYUWATI JAFFAR
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SINGAPORE - When Mr Alfian Afandi first met Ms Jafmai Idayuwati Jaffar at work in 2006, they could not stand each other.

"That's how it usually works, right?" he asks.

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