To die well, preparation is key

My mum died about a month ago, two and a half years after my dad's death ("The art of dying well"; July 26).

Both died without much distress. It had much to do with the way that they had lived their lives, sharing with others, be it family or friends.

Whether death comes slowly and painfully, or quickly and comfortably, is not something that can be predicted.

But it can be made much easier, depending on how we manage our lives and interactions with others.

Being charitable certainly has a tremendous bearing.

Death is inevitable, so it is best to accept it and be prepared for it.

The important thing is to do everything we can prior to its arrival. It is a question of being responsible, not just to ourselves but, more so, to those who are close to us.

Saying what has to be said to our loved ones now is important if there are to be no regrets.

We all have to face up to death. It is not something to be feared, but rather embraced, especially if we have done our duty and taken on all that life has thrown up.

To me, preparation is the key to the art of dying well. It is all about minimising the pain and suffering, the anxiety, and being able to leave in peace.

Manoraj Rajathurai

Join ST's Telegram channel and get the latest breaking news delivered to you.