Singles can learn independence while living with parents

Dr Lee Siew Peng's letter ("Independent singles make for attractive partners"; March 24) suggests that it's a good idea for singles to move out of their parents' homes and live on their own, as this independence can make them more attractive to a potential life partner.

However, if this trend catches on and singles start moving out of their parents' homes to live on their own, we may have another problem on our hands.

In most cases, when a child starts working after a lengthy period of tertiary education, his parents would be getting old. These seniors would need someone to take care of them and to take them to medical appointments, for example. The best candidates to do so are their own children.

If we continue living with our parents even after becoming financially independent, we can ensure that they have someone to talk to and do things with.

Parents and children can even encourage each other to take up interesting hobbies or courses to keep their minds active and stave off early onset dementia, which is getting more common in recent years.

It is highly likely that singles will quickly learn to be independent if they live away from their parents, and do not have their parents around to cook their meals, wash their laundry and do other chores for them.

However, it is also equally true that by living with one's parents, a person could still learn to be independent, and his parents could give him many a valuable tip on, say, cooking or how to properly do housework.

If a child lives away from his parents, he may not find time to spend with them. His visits may decline in frequency or stop altogether.

Lee Kay Yan (Miss)