Ensure 'the best' for kids is really best

Preschoolers from PCF Little Steps at Whampoa Education Centre in Whampoa Drive.
Preschoolers from PCF Little Steps at Whampoa Education Centre in Whampoa Drive.PHOTO: ST FILE

There is nothing wrong with parents wanting the best for their children ("Taming the kiasu mother in me"; Monday).

That said, it is important that parents do not stress their children too much, and should provide a well-balanced education.

I was born in the early 1970s. When I was in primary school, I had a classmate who cried after scoring 98 out of 100 in a test.

I thought he was crying out of happiness, and was shocked when he told me his parent would give him a severe beating for missing the perfect score.

If I had that result, my parents would have complimented me and encouraged me to keep up the good work.

It is important for parents to encourage their children and help build their interest in both studies and other pursuits, such as the arts, music and sports.

Parents also should not compare their children with others, as this will affect the child's self-esteem. Many children and successful people around the world are late bloomers.

Yes, parents want the best for their children, but they have to make sure that "the best" is beneficial and fruitful for their children.

On top of this, parents should also spend quality time with their children, and show encouragement, love and support.

Ace Kindredzen Cheong

A version of this article appeared in the print edition of The Straits Times on September 09, 2015, with the headline 'Ensure 'the best' for kids is really best'. Print Edition | Subscribe